Okay,
gang, today we’re back to Being Old and today’s exciting topic is Hearing
Loss. The book –enjoyable and very
well-written indeed – is “Shouting Won’t Help”. Katherine Bouton was an editor at the New York Times who
started losing her hearing and started faking it for many years thereafter. She ended up deaf, while I simply have
impaired hearing (and now I know the difference). I suspect, though, that you’ll find the book
fascinating even if you have no hearing loss at all – and frankly, after seeing
some of those studies and statistics, I suspect you probably do anyhow.
It's delightful to come across some things that happened to me --yes, at first I took off
those hearing aids carelessly and yes, I didn’t carry the little
packet they go in so I mislaid them. She
describes things I’ve figured out for myself --yes, solo instruments are
sometimes okay, but an orchestra, she writes, is painful cacophony – exactly the word I arrived at myself as I gave up concerts
and most of my CDs. And for that matter movies, and
conferences, and airport announcements and tour guides and don't get me started on the kitchen timer or the telephone.
She offers explanations for things that have puzzled me. C’mon, I’m not that
old, why did I have to leave the dinner party and go lie down in the dark? Just struggling to decipher conversation,
she points out, is more physically exhausting than one realizes. And how come I arrived back home with the
impression that – as usual – I’d talked too much? Why do I keep doing that? It’s comforting to read her explanation that
the hard-of-hearing can be unconsciously garrulous because when they’re the
ones doing the talking, at least they know what’s being said.
She
ends with a snippet of conversation—“When are we eating?” my husband says.
“Chicken,” I answer.
Reminds me of the woman in O’Hare Airport who told me she was flying to Peter Rabbit. So I looked on the notice board, and the plane just boarding was on its way to
Hi Edith, Meg Levin here. Very interesting. As you say, past a certain age we've all got hearing loss. I notice it in the classroom when I have to walk towards a student and ask her to repeat what she just said
ReplyDeleteHarking back to your earlier post about the tattle-tale hearing aids, I can understand their keeping track of your usage but how could they tell you were in a crowded room?
(Just looked back at your columns to find the anecdote and I couldn't tell which one it was in, but I remember that I found it fascinating. )